How to Say “I Love You” Without Words

In a marriage, love isn’t just about saying, “I love you.” It’s the little things that show care, respect, and affection—actions that speak louder than words, especially in Singapore’s culture. With Chinese New Year (CNY) coming up, here are some simple yet thoughtful ways to express your love through actions:
Before CNY
Spring Cleaning Together
Lend a hand with boring chores like cleaning windows or tidying up the storeroom. Make it less of a drag by playing CNY tunes or turning it into a fun, team effort.
Shop for CNY Essentials
Whether you’re out in Chinatown or browsing online, get involved in picking out new clothes, decorations, and snacks like pineapple tarts and bak kwa. Let your partner pick their favourites or decide together—it’s a small way to show you care about their preferences.
Help with Reunion Dinner Prep
If you’re hosting or planning, chip in with cooking or setting up for the big feast. It’s a meaningful way to work as a team and honour the occasion together.
During CNY
Respect Family Traditions
Show respect to your partner’s family by greeting relatives properly and preparing ang baos (red packets) for the kids. If they’re busy coordinating house visits or hosting, offer to help with tasks like making tea, tidying up, or keeping guests entertained.
Notice Their Efforts
Point out the little things—compliment their festive outfit, admire the decorations they’ve put up, or just thank them for keeping things running smoothly.
After CNY
Tidy Up Together
Once the celebrations are over, help clear away decorations and clean up. Sharing the workload shows you’re in it together, even after the festive buzz.
Plan a Chill Day
After all the busyness, surprise them with a quiet dinner or a day to just relax as a couple. It’s a great way to unwind and reconnect.
Everyday Love
Love isn’t just for special occasions—it’s in the small, thoughtful things you do every day.
Acts of Service
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Pitch In with Family Duties: Help with the kids’ homework, ferry them to classes, or just keep them entertained so your partner can have some time off.
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Brew Herbal Remedies: Make chrysanthemum tea or boil some ginseng chicken soup when they’re stressed or unwell—it’s a heartfelt way to show you care.
Quality Time
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Try Something New Together: From art jamming to a stroll at East Coast Park, plan little outings that let you bond and create memories.
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Foodie Adventures: Revisit hawker centres or café hop to enjoy local favourites together—it’s a sweet way to relive shared moments.
Celebrate Milestones
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Mark Their Achievements: Whether it’s a work promotion or a big project, surprise them with their favourite food or a small gift. Even delivering kopi to their office can make their day.
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Celebrate Special Days: Make birthdays and anniversaries special by planning something meaningful—big or small, it’s the thought that counts.
Small but Sweet Gestures
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Plan a Quick Getaway: A staycation or a JB day trip can be a refreshing break for the two of you.
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Write in Their Language: A heartfelt message in their preferred language, like “我爱你” (I love you) or “谢谢你,辛苦了” (Thanks for your hard work), can go a long way.