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A Key Part of Parenthood You Might Be Missing: Friendships

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Ever feel like parenting can get a bit overwhelming and, honestly, a little lonely? Being a parent is no walk in the park—it’s rewarding, sure, but it can also leave you with barely enough time to breathe, let alone hang out with friends. But here’s the thing: while raising kids takes up so much of our energy, it’s just as important to nurture your friendships or even make new ones.

Parenting can feel like a solo journey, but it doesn’t have to be. Having a solid group of friends around you can make all the difference. Here’s why friendships matter so much for parents—and how you can build and maintain them.

 

Why Friendships Are Important?

  1. A Support System You Can Count On

When life (or your kids) gets tough, friends are there to lend an ear and cheer you on. Whether it’s venting about a rough day, swapping tips, or celebrating little wins, having someone who understands what you’re going through can make things feel a lot less overwhelming.

  1. Youre Not Alone

Parenting can sometimes feel isolating, especially when most of your time is spent with your little ones. Connecting with other parents going through the same ups and downs can be comforting. It’s a reminder that you’re part of a bigger community and that you’re not alone in this journey.

  1. Fresh Perspectives

Your friends can bring new ideas and ways of thinking that might just inspire you. Maybe they’ve figured out great ways to manage screen time or have fun bedtime routines you’d never thought of. Learning from others can help you grow, not just as a parent, but as a person.

 

Making and Keeping Friendships

Let’s face it—keeping up with friends or making new ones can be tricky when you’re juggling nappies, tantrums, and endless to-do lists. But with a bit of effort, it’s doable. Here’s how:

How to Make New Friends?

  1. Join Parenting Groups or Events

    Local parenting groups—whether online or in person—are great places to meet like-minded parents. Look out for playdates, workshops, or neighbourhood family events. You’ll bond over shared experiences and might just find your new best friend!

  2. Get Social (Online)

    Social media is perfect for finding parent groups that match your interests or location. Platforms like Facebook or Meetup can help you connect with others, and these online chats can lead to in-person meetups too.

  3. Start Small Talk

    It can feel awkward to strike up a conversation with a stranger, but it doesn’t have to be a big deal. Start with simple chats at the playground, at school pick-up, or even while queueing at the supermarket. Who knows where it might lead?

How to Keep Friendships Alive?

  1. Stay Consistent

    Friendships need a bit of effort. Regular check-ins or meetups can help you stay connected, even when life gets hectic.

  2. Be There for Each Other

    Show up when your friends need support and let them do the same for you. Sometimes, just being there can strengthen your bond.

  3. Celebrate the Wins

    Birthdays, milestones, or even just surviving a tough week are great excuses to catch up. Sharing these moments reminds you there’s more to life than just being a parent.

 

Need Ideas to Get Started?

Here are some places and groups in Singapore where you can meet other parents:

 

 

Final Thoughts

Building and keeping friendships as a parent takes effort, but it’s so worth it. Friends bring joy, support, and perspective, helping you feel more confident and less alone in your parenting journey. So, go ahead—make the first move. You’ve got this!

Written by: Judianne Tan, Intern, Fei Yue Community Services

References

https://raisingchildren.net.au/grown-ups/looking-after-yourself/social-connections/parents-friends

https://theweek.com/articles/748907/making-friends-new-parent-hard-heres-how-did

https://atomicmommy.net/2024/05/20/how-to-maintain-social-connections-as-a-busy-parent/

https://www.verywellfamily.com/how-to-make-friends-as-a-parent-5198351#:~:text=Having%20a%20friend%20who%20understands%20the%20parenting%20journey,can%20even%20improve%20your%20physical%20and%20mental%20health.