What is Triple P and how has it benefitted parents?
These days, there is no shortage of different parenting styles. When it comes to parenting, there is no “one size fits all.” There is no need to subscribe to just one type, as there may be times when you will be required to use a varied parenting approach. (Amy McCredy, 2021) In searching for the best parenting style for yourself, you may want to look to evidence-based parenting programme, the Triple P – Positive Parenting Programme.
The Triple P – Positive Parenting Programme is one of the world’s most effective evidence-based parenting programmes, backed up by more than 35 years of ongoing research. Triple P gives parents simple and practical strategies to confidently manage their children’s behaviour and help them build strong, healthy relationships with their children.
You choose from a toolbox of parenting strategies and make it work for you. More than half of Triple P’s parenting strategies focus on developing positive relationships, attitudes, and conduct. Parents are taught strategies to promote their child’s development by developing positive relationships and encouraging desirable behaviours first and foremost.
For instance, Mdm Lee (pseudonym) attended Triple P’s one-to-one consultation as she struggled with dealing with her 10-year-old son’s overwhelming emotions. He was sensitive, often cried for very simple reasons and was also terrified of the dark. Through Triple P, Mdm Lee and her husband slowly understood his innate nature and learned to speak calmly to their son. “We made a behaviour chart and rewarded him with some gifts after he attained the points for following his schedule and completing his task without us prompting. ” Introducing a reward system will encourage positive behaviours she endorses in her child and helps to bring the best out of your child.
For his fear of the dark, Mdm Lee helped him to stay alone in the dark room gradually over a period and reassured him that she would be there for him whenever he needed her. She demonstrated open communication and reassuring her son that she will be there for him creates a safe bond with her son. His fear of the dark has since improved significantly.
Encouraging open communication and spending one-on-one quality time bonding helps to create stronger and more meaningful relationships. Mdm Siti (pseudonym), 41, mother of a teenage daughter, struggled to manage her daughter’s spiral of negative emotions. “I learned not to take things for granted and not be oversensitive to other peoples’ opinions. Instead, I spend more time with my children and pay attention to my daughter’s emotional needs more intentionally.”
Setting clear rules and expectations is a core aspect of positive parenting. Enforcing natural consequences can turn a child’s bad choices into learning opportunities. By sticking to routines, you have set for your children, they will learn to move through them without you having to nag. Take, for example, Mdm Wong (pseudonym), who has learned after attending Triple P to give only one clear instruction at a time to her teenage son instead of nagging at him. “I try to use an agreed consequence and give clear instruction to my son, they help to reduce my nagging, and hence, there is less argument between us.” With improved communication and reduced nagging, Mdm Wong has minimised arguments with her son and now enjoys a closer relationship with him.
Many parents who have attended Triple P have found the programme beneficial. Mdm Wong shared, “I used to think counsellors are unable to help us with our parenting problem until I attended the programme. I encourage all parents to talk to a counsellor and share your challenges.” The programme encourages the use of positive parenting methods, such as positive language, planned discipline and family routines, which will help nurture your child’s development and overall well-being. (Wilder Research, 2016)
If you wish to learn about Triple P strategies or speak to a parenting coach, please feel free to connect with us via https://go.fycs.org/PSS or [email protected]. Fei Yue parenting support is offered to parents free of charge.
Amy McCready (2021). Here’s what makes ‘positive parenting’ different—and why experts say it’s one of the best parenting styles. https://www.cnbc.com/2021/12/04/why-psychologists-say-positive-parenting-is-the-best-style-for-raising-confident-successful-kids.html#:~:text=What%20is%20positive%20parenting%3F,happening%20in%20the%20first%20place.
Wilder Research (2016) The Benefits of Parenting Education: A Literature Review for the Wilder Parent Education Center.